So many times we would like to tell stories, share moments of joy or sadness or doubts… but there is a lack of words or of someone willing to listen to what our heart would like to scream. And that is the moment when each one of us feels helpless, alone, and sometimes desperate. That is when certainties of a life waver, and sometimes collapse behind the mighty thrust of our survival instinct, which leads us to look for hidden spots, where our estrangement or suffering can be ignored by everyone, even by ourselves. This is the very moment when a friend is needed, even if only him being a silent presence, or dealing with him our experiences… That outstretched hand, that does not let us sink, is often salvation for those who feel lost.
The birth of the Phoenix’s Nest was born out of this need, which is much more common than we want to admit. The Nest was born to offer each one of us a safe place where someone has the real interest in respecting, protecting and welcoming those who want to live quietly and in peace, without having violated their privacy, their intimacy and sometimes their silence.
But why a BDSM community? Why not a chilling room or a disco or even a fuck room where everyone is free to mind their own business?
The answer is simple for those who know, live and respect the Lifestyle. True BDSM has into it some needed and very important fundamentals, which make BDSM itself much closer to everyday reality than any of us would think: respect, safety and communication. Obviously, these aspects are often merged in a reality that is misrepresented and turned into just a sexual reality. Personally, as I have come to know, learn and experience it, the BDSM reality has become something that filled my whole life. Respect, safety and communication, so important in my BDSM life, are also the soil onto I am building up my real life, my friendship with people I am fond of, my knowledge.
If I also consider the other two basic principles of BDSM, both of them deeply involved in a daily reality, which are health (of body and mind) and consensuality (in sex as well as in love, friendship or simply in life), all this makes me think that the principles that are BDSM foundation, making it a conscious and much safer choice than many others, can also be helpful in creating a group of people who lives this at 360 degrees into reality, letting the ethical principles of a discipline often considered unethical become the thread of a pleasant and ever deeper group experience of sharing and mutual respect.
Sometimes, comparing the Phoenix’s Nest BDSM Club with other activities or rooms created on 3DX, I think that lots of people will think I am mad when I try to create this kind of experience, believing it would be possible to make this kind of community work… but seeing what happened in the last days, reading how people had been involved into something that is more a personal fact than something linked to a game, it makes me hope and proudly be happy in having choosed each one of the Members as a part of the family.
Thank you everyone for becoming a needed part of this group, of our family. I hope that this kind of mind will someway reach the most of the people playing 3DX, creating all around us a community worth of this name.
